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The problem I am having is that I don’t know what I should be expecting; I don’t want to sell myself short, but I also don’t want to bid too high for a job I would have really enjoyed.

Where should I look to get a really good grip on what starting salary range I should expect?

By: Brian H

Like a man that beats his wife and/or kids?
I think when a household is like that, it is very, very sad. But I haven’t read any works of literature that deals with that kind of theme.

By: Carol

According to conventional feminist wisdom, men and women are about equally emotional, but men are conditioned to contain it and/or express it as anger, whereas women are conditioned to be more genuine about it.

From my own, personal, unscientific perspective, both of these conventional wisdoms are suspect. I say this because at least personally, I’m genuinely not as emotional as most of the women I know. I can’t speak for other men (who might be containing it, lying about it, et cetera), but I genuinely do not have the emotional responses, contained or otherwise, that other people (particularly women) tend to display.

I remember when I was fairly young, my great grandmother, who I was very close to at the time and only learned to respect more as I became more mature and learned more about who she was as a person, died very suddenly and unexpectedly. My mother and grandmother (both normally fairly stoic women) both burst into tears at the news, and I felt some social obligation to respond emotionally as well (just to avoid looking like I didn’t care about her, which I did), but like a bad actor, I simply couldn’t make myself cry, or be upset, or conjure any other emotional response that simply wasn’t there.

As I’ve lived more life, I’ve endured more genuine tragedies and losses, and grieve them, but seem to lack the capacity and tendency for emotional breakdown that many women seem to have. Not because I’m containing it out of social obligation (to the contrary, when someone dies, NOT responding emotionally is often frowned upon, even for men), but because it genuinely isn’t there, and I’m not a good enough actor to fake it.

By contrast, I’ve mentioned before that I tend to be surrounded by fairly progressive, self-respecting women who take on many traditionally male philosophies, including the idea that one should be able to control emotional responses in times of crisis. Yet, I’ve known many of these women to have emotional responses despite trying to control and contain them, even in relatively minor situations (saying goodbye to someone for a long period of time, having a very stressful day, et cetera).

So, is this just a bizarre coincidence of myself being genuinely unusually unemotional and my female friends and associates being genuinely unusually emotional, that’s not related to gender at large? Or is there something to the idea that women inherently experience genuine emotional reactions more than men?

By: CAustin

I just graduate from BCIT, Canada. I am looking for a job as GIS Developer/Analyst to develop my career in GIS. However, I less network/connections to explore the hidden market in North America since I migrated to Canada from Asia.
Before I moved to Canada, I worked as a GIS developer in Singapore. Highlights of my skills and abilities include:

•Databases: Oracle 8i/9i Spatial, SQL Server 2000/2005, PostgreSQL, Access
•Languages: Visual Basic/C#.NET, C/C++, ASP.NET, PHP, JavaScrpt
•Software: ArcGIS 9.2, ArcObjects and ArcSDE, FME, PostGIS, PCI Geomatics, Intergraph Geomedia, etc.
•Strong interpersonal and problem solving skills

Thank you very much.
John

By: Yeek

Is it because Daddy voted this way and Granddaddy voted this way?
In terms of damage and policy, it’s worse now than any time since 1929. These are serious and perilous times…and Republicans got us into this mess

What’s the lure? What can they do?
Despite all the damage, why do people cling to the Republican party??
Is it Sean Hannity riling these people up?

What is your opinion?

By: TheNoBullExpress